I’ve been having trouble writing about TF and I’s reflections post Positive Discipline seminar. It’s just hard to get all my thoughts on *paper* in a way that actually makes sense. Hopefully I’m not completely all over the place here.
One of the conversations TF and I had on the way home after the class was over struck me as quite interesting. I’d asked him if he was glad we took the class and his answer was “I get the concept and I like it, but I still think a kid needs to have his ass handed to him once in a while.” This really didn’t shock me as much as it should have. I mean, what was I going to expect someone who has lived and worked in a military environment for the last 11 years?
When he elaborated on his statement it made a little more sense to me. What he was trying to get at was that not everyone is positive when it comes to discipline. For example, if LBG had never experienced someone totally losing their shit, he would be in complete and utter shock if he decides to join the military or has a crappy boss who rips him a new one for the first time. He needs to learn how to conduct himself in the event that someone gives him a tongue lashing.
He feels LBG can’t totally live in a wonderful positive bubble when it comes to discipline. I kind of agree. I also don’t think this is something we have to worry about. Neither of us were raised using the PD theory so staying calm, collected, and positive does not come naturally to us. We will have slip ups. Society will also make sure this isn’t an issue. I’m willing to place a bet that someone else will try to discipline LBG at some point in his life. You know what I’m talking about- the old lady who thinks its ok to step in to help when your toddler throws a tantrum or a sports coach when everyone on the team is goofing off instead of practicing.
Is it even possible to live in a little PD bubble? Should we (as a PD population) make an effort to use unPD techniques occasionally so our children are prepared for the real world? I’d love to hear your thoughts.