When I was growing up, the events of Christmas were always the same. Same traditions and routines year after year. It was nice having something to look forward to.
Mark and I have been together for 6 years-married 5 of those.
Our Christmases have looked like this
1. Mark was deployed
2. Mark was home
3. Mark deploying the day after so we didn’t do anything special
4. Mark was still deployed
5. Atticus was 2 months old. We were invited to Christmas Eve dinner with my friend’s family.
6. In a new house in a new city. We did have Christmas Eve dinner with my friend and her family again- they’ve invited us this year, too!
We’ve never really had the chance to create our own traditions. Not to mention that this year and last year Mark has been so stressed out with his exams that he really hasn’t had time to do anything fun Christmas-wise. I’m tired of trying to create traditions that don’t happen the next year or gets shot down for whatever reason. We aren’t Christian so we don’t even celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. It’s purely commercial.
So this year we are starting over. New holiday. New celebration. New traditions. Traditions that are 100% organic for us. Not ones we grew up with and are trying to pass on. We’ve had 6 Christmases to do that and it hasn’t worked.
We will be celebrating the Winter Solstice. You know, the holiday from which the Christmas tree was derived?! It’s the shortest day and longest night of the year. It’s a turning point because the days will slowly get longer and longer.
Here is what we’ve planned. I’m going to make a big pot of vegetable soup and Mark will make wassail. We will also have some of our favorite side dishes. Then Atticus will get to open his gifts and decorate cookies. If it doesn’t rain, Mark wants to build a fire outside in our firepit so we can sit around it and tell stories and drink our wassail.
We think it would be fun to help Atticus make some sort of craft to put outside for the animals. Like paint a bird house or make a bird feeder. That won’t happen this year because we have cookies for him to decorate instead. Next year he will understand things more so it would be a better time.
Mark and I have been talking about Santa Claus and what we want to do with that tradition because it’s also very cultural. Luckily we have another year to figure that one out. Atticus has no interest in him at all this year. We’ve tossed around having him fill our stockings with goodies that will be opened Christmas morning.
Neither of us like the idea of good children getting gifts and bad ones getting coal. It’s just a month of bribery and that just doesn’t sit well with us. Not to mention the whole concept of someone watching your every move! So we will see what happens next year.
Hopefully we enjoy our new traditions otherwise we will be airing our grievances sitting around a Festivus pole!